Life Design Journaling Framework: Values
What are Values
Values are the core part of Who You are. They affect the decisions you make, and how you feel about any outcome in your life.
“Values are principles, standards or qualities that an individual (or group of people) hold in high regard. These values guide the way we live our lives and the decisions we make. A value may be defined as something that we hold dear, those things/qualities/ideas which we consider to be of worth.”
[source: Nageswara Rao Posinasetti – University of Northern Iowa https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Nageswara_Posinasetti/4]
Our values are the criteria we use consciously or unconsciously to evaluate our life. The more we are living according to our values the happier and more fulfilled we are.
Every choice we make in life either supports or opposes our values.
This can range from strongly supports to strongly opposes and everything in-between. When we understand our values, we can make decisions that maximize the support of our values. The more our life design supports our values, the more we feel as if we our living our ideal life, the life we were meant to live, our purpose. Living our values supplies us with energy and momentum to move us forward towards our vision.
Know Your Values
Some of your values may not have been your choice. You have the value because of family, upbringing, society, culture. These are the values that may potentially conflict with other values you have or values you don’t feel deeply. When you have conflicting values, you cannot have a fulfilled life because you will always be opposing one of your values.
This is why making a conscious effort to identify your values is so important. When we identify conflicting values, we can choose what we want to value. When We choose which values we have, and we feel those values deep into the core of our being.
Once identified, values are relatively stable, changing slowly as you go through life and experience life’s events. School, kids, retirement, age are all different phases of our life and potentially will change what you value. Conversely, we may subconsciously change our values where we are not aware, we just have some inner push to make a big change in our lives. Understanding and knowing your values and how they change over time offers glimpses into the purpose of your life’s journey.
Making Value-Based Decisions
When you are aware of your values you will make better life decisions. You will create goals that are congruent with your values, that you can achieve with more energy because they are aligned with who you really want to be.
By living life in alignment with your values you will:
- Live a life of integrity
- Have Balance in life
- Make Better life decisions
- Acquire More self-awareness
- Live A more meaningful life
- Boost your self-esteem
- Be happier
- Be more fulfilled
For me personally, values play a large role in the decision I make.
One value that I have struggled with over the years has been the value of security. Early in my life, I felt that security was an important value to me. I made choices based on this value that in the end did not serve me well. As a business analyst I would take on contracts because they were secure, but they didn’t get me closer to my life vision, they just put me in a holding pattern.
A better value for me to have is freedom. I want a life where I am free to pursue my interest, free to be at my kid’s events, free to travel.
Knowing that I valued freedom and not security would have led me to pursue opportunities for less money but would have created freedom in the future.
Why Know Your Values
Your values create a framework for evaluating your life design. The more aware of your values, the more your life decisions will be congruent, the more you will feel you are living the life you were meant to live. Your values are a way of categorizing what is important to you at a deep level. The more our mission and vision support our values, the more motivation we have to live our values. One side supports the other.
Questions to determine your values
- What qualities or aspects does an experience require for the experience to make you happy? Review the list of values to help spark your imagination.
- What qualities or aspects does an experience require for the experience to make you proud? Review the list of values to help spark your imagination.
- What qualities or aspects does an experience require for the experience to make you fulfilled? Review the list of values to help spark your imagination.
- What values do you express when you feel things are going right when you are in a state of flow? When you are energized?
- What are the values of someone you admire? Why do you admire them?
- As a child what were you rewarded for? Hard work, creativity, interpersonal skills, etcetera.
- What is your career? An entrepreneur is going to have different values than a neurosurgeon.
- What do you spend money on? You potentially buy things or experiences for the value they satisfy.
Value List: 479 Values
The following is an extensive list of values. Many people need to see the different values to understand what the values mean so the result is this list.
|Beauty||Being the Best||Belonging||Benevolence||Bliss|
|Longevity||Love||Loyalty||Majesty||Making a Difference|
Building Your Values List – Action Steps
|Start a journal||Start a journal if you don’t already have one.|
|Document your values||Create a section specific to your values. This will allow you to regularly review and update your values.|
|Document experiences of your values||Create a section where you can document experiences related to your values. Journal times you lived your values and times you did not live your values.|
|Document reflections of your values||Create a section where you document reflections you have about your values.|
|Review regularly||Review your journal regularly. Ideally, you would review your journal as part of your morning or evening routine. This is an integral part of daily improvement.|