Questions to uncover your roles
Questions are an effective technique for reflecting and understanding what your life roles are. Reflect on what you learn from questions to help you choose what your roles are. There are no predetermined roles, your roles are for you to choose and create.
For some, they may want a sibling role and a parent role, for others they may roll these into a family role. Some people will have one career or work role, others may choose to have many. It is all up to you how you will group the responsibilities and activities you have in your life.
The following questions will help you uncover your roles. Everything you do in life should fall into one or more roles.
- What responsibilities do you have in life?
- What did you do yesterday? What roles do these activities fit in?
- What did you do in the last month? What roles do these activities fit in?
- What did you do in the last year? What roles do these activities fit in?
Importance of Understanding Your Life Roles
Awareness and understanding of your roles provide many benefits. Part of living a balanced life means living a life where the appropriate amount of effort is given to the different roles.
Without roles, there are many tasks that you need to do. When these tasks are grouped into roles, the tasks, especially the minor tasks, take on the meaning of the role.
Understanding the role you are in when you are doing a particular task helps to give meaning to that task. Doing laundry is a chore, but if you understand you are doing laundry to fulfill your role as a parent the task now has meaning.
The roles we play are a reflection of our responsibilities, goals, beliefs, and values. When the roles we play are not in alignment, we may feel unhappy, dissatisfied, or uninspired about our lives.
Reflecting and understanding your life roles brings clarity to your values and beliefs.
When we are not happy with the roles we have in life, it is a sign we should be looking at our life design. Creating change based on your life roles is one way of creating and refining a life design.
Having awareness of all your life roles gives you the opportunity to bring a congruent self to all your life roles. You can evaluate who you are being in each of the life roles and bring more of your true self to each role.
Your inner talk is facilitated by your roles. It is easier to resolve internal issues when you can see those issues from the perspective of your life roles. You may view situations differently when they are viewed from one life role as opposed to a different life role.
Life Roles and Your Life Design
Life design is the process of purposefully and intentionally creating the life you want to live.
Life design is creating and executing a plan for your life to maximize your happiness and fulfillment.
You only get one life to live. You can live life randomly, taking whatever comes your way and hoping for the best. Conversely, you can purposefully and intelligently choose the path you take through life.
Regardless of how much of a plan you have for your life, the plan is reflected in your roles. Since your roles are a high-level perspective of the life you are living, your roles are influenced by your life goals, your beliefs, and your values.
How well you fulfill your roles are based on your skills and capabilities.
One way to determine the balance in your life is to see how your roles align with the different life areas. If there are life areas without roles to help you fulfill that life area, it is an indication that your life is not in balance.
Importance of Reflecting and Journaling Your Life Roles
Journaling will make you aware of the different life roles you have and will give you a deeper understanding of those roles.
Your awareness and your understanding of your roles is a valuable resource for you to design and create a fulfilling and meaningful life.
Your life roles give you a perspective on who you are that will facilitate well-thought-out life decisions. When making a decision you can ask yourself what that decision means in relation to each of the life roles. A decision that is good for one life role may not be a good decision for other roles.
Life roles come and go over the course of your life. Understanding the patterns of the different roles will help you prepare for life’s changes. Becoming a parent, retiring, kids leaving home are big life changes where your roles change. If a particular life role is going to become less important in your life, what life role is going to become more important, or what new role will replace it?
Capturing a history of the life roles and how you have lived those roles becomes a history of you. What patterns and themes do you see in that history? What value is there that you can pass on to future generations? This is the power of capturing your life roles into a journal.
How Does the Life Design Course Help?
To change your life you need a baseline, a solid understanding of the current state of your life.
Life design requires ongoing focus. A company doesn’t just create strategy once, it is something they do consistently. It is same with your life design.
Journaling with OneNote gives you a single source for your journaled life design. The digital nature of OneNote allows you to search and review past journal entries easily.
The JounaledLife Life Design framework breaks down the different segments of your life design so you can examine each aspect separately. The allows you to look at different aspects of your life design and see how they are related to each other.