Life Design Journaling Framework: Personality

What Makes Up Your Personality?

Personality traits, strengths, weaknesses are aspects of the Self segment of the Life Design Journaling framework.

You are on this journey in life towards your vision. Who do you want to be on that journey? How do you want others to see you? That is what this post is about. What is your personality and what makes up that personality?

Many people are not aware of what their personality is. You are the person who is on the journey and your personality is going to affect how others will interact with you. Having that awareness of your personality allows you to be effective in those interactions.

Your personality is made up of personality traits, strengths and weaknesses, and Interests. This part of the life design is to brainstorm, reflect, and document what you already are. A self-inventory process that will form our starting point of creating a plan to move us on our journey to our vision.

Skills and habits, which are also part of our personality will be addressed separately as they are abilities that you actively create.

Personality Traits

A couple of definitions for personality traits.

traits, which can be defined as habitual patterns of behavior, thought, and emotion.

[source: Saul Kassin, (2003). Psychology. USA: Prentice-Hall, Inc.]

Personality refers to individual differences in characteristic patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving.

Knowing your personality traits is important in crafting an effective life design. There are many personality tests available to identify your main personality traits. The more specific personality traits are simply a matter of self-reflection.

Examples of Personality Trait

Positive Traits

AccessibleActiveAdaptableAdmirableAdventurous
AgreeableAlertAllocentricAmiableAnticipative
AppreciativeArticulateAspiringAthleticAttractive
BalancedBenevolentBrilliantCalmCapable
CaptivatingCaringChallengingCharismaticCharming
CheerfulCleanClear-headedCleverColorful
CompanionlyCompassionateConciliatoryConfidentConscientious
ConsiderateConstantContemplativeCooperativeCourageous
CourteousCreativeCulturedCuriousDaring
DebonairDecentDecisiveDedicatedDeep
DignifiedDirectedDisciplinedDiscreetDramatic
DutifulDynamicEarnestEbullientEducated
EfficientElegantEloquentEmpatheticEnergetic
EnthusiasticEstheticExcitingExtraordinaryFair
FaithfulFarsightedFelicificFirmFlexible
FocusedForcefulForgivingForthrightFreethinking
FriendlyFun-lovingGallantGenerousGentle
GenuineGood-naturedGraciousHardworkingHealthy
HeartyHelpfulHeroicHigh-mindedHonest
HonorableHumbleHumorousIdealisticImaginative
ImpressiveIncisiveIncorruptibleIndependentIndividualistic
InnovativeInoffensiveInsightfulInsouciantIntelligent
IntuitiveInvulnerableKindKnowledgeLeader
LeisurelyLiberalLogicalLovableLoyal
LyricalMagnanimousMany-sidedMasculine (Manly)Meticulous
MatureMethodicalMeticulousModerateModest
Multi-leveledNeatNonauthoritarianObjectiveObservant
OpenOptimisticOrderlyOrganizedOriginal
PainstakingPassionatePatientPatrioticPeaceful
PerceptivePerfectionistPersonablePersuasivePlanful
PlayfulPolishedPopularPracticalPrecise
PrincipledProfoundProteanProtectiveProvidential
PrudentPurposefulPunctualPurposefulRational
RealisticReflectiveRelaxedReliableResourceful
RespectfulResponsibleResponsiveReverentialRomantic
RusticSageSaneScholarlyScrupulous
SecureSelf-criticalSelf-defacingSelf-denyingSelfless
Self-reliantSelf-sufficientSensitiveSentimentalSeraphic
SeriousSexySharingShrewdSimple
SkillfulSoberSociableSolidSophisticated
SpontaneousSportingStableSteadfastSteady
StoicStrongStudiousSuaveSubtle
SweetSympatheticSystematicTastefulTeacherly
ThoroughTidyTolerantTractableTrusting
UncomplainingUnderstandingUndogmaticUnfoolableUpright
UrbaneVenturesomeVivaciousWarmWell-bred
Well-readWell-roundedWinningWiseWitty
Youthful

Neutral Traits

AbsentmindedAggressiveAmbitiousAmusingArtful
AsceticAuthoritarianBig-thinkingBoyishBreezy
BusinesslikeBusyCasualCerebralChummy
CircumspectCompetitiveComplexConfidentialConservative
ContradictoryCerebralCrispCuteDeceptive
DeterminedDominatingDreamyDrivingDroll
DryEarthyEffeminateEmotionalEnigmatic
ExperimentalFamilialFolksyFormalFreewheeling
FrugalGlamorousGuilelessHigh-spiritedHurried
HypnoticIconoclasticIdiosyncraticImpassiveImpersonal
ImpressionableIntenseInvisibleIrreligiousIrreverent
MaternalMellowModernMoralisticMystical
NeutralNoncommittalNon-competitiveNon-competitiveObedient
Old-fashionedOld-fashionedOrdinaryOutspokenPaternalistic
PhysicalPlacidPoliticalPredictablePreoccupied
PrivateProgressiveProudPureQuestioning
QuietReligiousReservedRestrainedRetiring
SarcasticSelf-consciousSensualSkepticalSmooth
SoftSolemnSolitarySternStolid
StolidStrictStubbornStylishSubjective
SurprisingToughUnaggressiveUnambitiousUnceremonious
UnchangingUndemandingUnfathomableUnhurriedUninhibited
UnpatrioticUnpredictableUnpredictableUnreligiousUnsentimental
Whimsical

Negative Traits

AbrasiveAbruptAgonizingAimlessAiry
AloofAmoralAngryAnxiousApathetic
ArbitraryArgumentativeArrogantArrogantArtificial
AsocialAssertiveAstigmaticBarbaricBewildered
BoisterousBizarreBlandBluntBoisterous
BrittleBrutalCalculatingCallousCantankerous
CantankerousCarelessCautiousCharmlessChildish
ClumsyCoarseColdColorlessComplacent
ComplaintiveCompulsiveConceitedCondemnatoryConformist
ConfusedContemptibleConventionalCowardlyCrafty
CrassCrazyCriminalCriticalCrude
CruelCynicalDecadentDeceitfulDelicate
DemandingDependentDesperateDestructiveDevious
DifficultDirtyDisconcertingDiscontentedDiscouraging
DiscourteousDishonestDisloyalDisobedientDisorderly
DisorganizedDisputatiousDisrespectfulDisruptiveDissolute
DissonantDistractibleDisturbingDogmaticDomineering
DullEasily DiscouragedEgocentricEnervatedEnvious
ErraticEscapistExcitableExpedientExtravagant
ExtremeFaithlessFanaticalFancifulFatalistic
FawningFearfulFickleFieryFixed
FlamboyantFoolishForgetfulFraudulentFrightening
FrivolousGloomyGracelessGrandGreedy
GrimGullibleHatefulHaughtyHedonistic
HesitantHideboundHigh-handedHostileIgnorant
ImitativeImpatientImpracticalImprudentImpulsive
InconsiderateIncuriousIndecisiveIndulgentInert
InhibitedInsecureInsensitiveInsincereInsulting
IntolerantIrascibleIrrationalIrresponsibleIrritable
LazyLibidinousLoquaciousMaliciousManner less
ManneredManner lessMawkishMealy-mouthedMealy-mouthed
MechanicalMeddlesomeMelancholicMeretriciousMessy
MiserableMiserlyMisguidedMistakenMoney-minded
MonstrousMoodyMorbidMuddle-headedNaive
NarcissisticNarrowNarrow-mindedNattyNegativistic
NeglectfulNeuroticNihilisticNon-self-criticalObnoxious
ObsessiveObviousOddOffhandOne-dimensional
One-sidedOpinionatedOpportunisticOppressedOutrageous
Over imaginativeOver imaginativeParanoidPassivePedantic
PerversePettyPharisaicalPharisaicalPhlegmatic
PloddingPompousPossessivePower-hungryPredatory
PrejudicedPresumptuousPretentiousPrimProcrastinating
ProfligateProvocativePugnaciousPuritanicalQuirky
ReactionaryReactiveRegimentalRegretfulRepentant
RepressedResentfulRidiculousRigidRitualistic
RowdyRuinedSadisticSanctimoniousScheming
ScornfulSecretiveSedentarySelf-indulgentSelfish
ShallowShort-sightedShort-sightedShySilly
Single-mindedSloppySlowSlySmall-thinking
SoftheadedSordidSteelyStiffStrong-willed
StupidSubmissiveSuperficialSuperstitiousSuspicious
TactlessTastelessTenseThievishThoughtless
TimidTransparentTreacherousTrendyTroublesome
UnappreciativeUncaringUncharitableUnconvincingUncooperative
UncreativeUncriticalUnctuousUndisciplinedUnfriendly
UngratefulUnhealthyUnimaginativeUnimpressiveUnlovable
UnpolishedUnprincipledUnrealisticUnreflectiveUnreliable
UnrestrainedUnself-criticalUnstableVacuousVague
VenalVenomousVindictiveVulnerableWeak
Weak-willedWell-meaningWillfulWishfulZany

Strengths / Talents

Our strengths and talents are the things we are naturally good at.

When we live a life where we are maximizing the strengths and talents that we enjoy, we have a fulfilling life. This gives our lives joy and meaning.

Just because you are naturally good at something does not mean it needs to be part of your life design. You need to pursue the talents that you are interested in, that bring you joy and happiness, that align with your life’s vision and life’s values.

Weaknesses

Weaknesses are the things we are not naturally good at. It is generally recommended that you create ways of minimizing your weaknesses, not try to turn weaknesses into strengths. It is a far better use of your time to work on your strengths. Those things that you are naturally good at you will naturally learn faster.

Interests

Interests are simply anything you find interesting. They can range from TV shows you like to items on your long-term bucket list. They can be topics you are interested in, sports, non-fiction books, activities, art, etcetera. It is out of these interests that themes and patterns emerge that can help form your life design.

My Experience: Personality Tests

I have done many personality tests over the years.

Those who have been with me for a while know that I recently moved all my journals into OneNote.

One interesting thing I noted about my personality is that the results of the personality tests that I have taken have changed over the years. I see this most notably with the Myers-Briggs test as it is easy to compare the four letters.

I have gone from an INFP during my University years to an INTP today. Is this a result of my years of being a business analyst? Or maybe the result of being a parent? I don’t know the answer, but there may be some nugget of information in exploring the change. That is the advantage of having your life design and life history in one place.

Journal Your Personality

You are the vehicle who is going on this journey through life. The better you know who you are the more effective you can be on the journey.

Awareness is a powerful thing. Journaling is a method of getting things out of your head and documented. This process requires you to formulate and organize your thoughts. Once in your journal, you will be more aware of who you are.

You might be surprised by what is written. There is a myriad of emotional responses that may come from seeing who you are in written form. Either way, this gives you the starting point for determining who you want to be.

You have a vision for your life and part of that vision is the type of person you want to be. What traits do you need to strengthen, what weaknesses do you need to mitigate, what strengths will serve you the best? These are all questions you need to ask to create your plan to reach your vision, and these questions are rooted in who you are now.

Inventory Your Personality Traits – Action Steps

Start a journalStart a journal if you don’t already have one.
Document the different parts of your personalityCreate a section specific to your personality. This will allow you to regularly review and update your personality as you know your self better and while you change towards your ideal self.
Document experiences of your personalityCreate a section where you can document experiences related to your personality. Journal experiences where your traits served you well or when your strengths served you. Also, document times when you were set back because of weaknesses, or negative traits.
Document reflections of your personalityCreate a section where you document reflections and insights you have about your personality.
ReviewReview your journal regularly. Ideally, you would review your journal as part of your morning or evening routine. This is an integral part of daily improvement.